My mother raised me anti-feminist

Growing up my mother taught me to never call a man, to never pay for a meal, and to be mad at the women before me who asked for rights. She is so wrong, and I'm ashamed she puts down our sex so readily.
Last week she was explaining the reason why men are becoming more and more lazy, and she said "They used to be the man of the house, and their pride is hurt, because they aren't getting enough recognition".
I'm sorry, I say "bullshit" to that! People make such a huge deal about prohibition, and integration, but no one seems to get how tough women are, and how hard we have to fight, and now we work AND raise children. I don't think most men could do that. And her theory about men loosing their pride about not being the man of the house, try a little harder?! You could try going to work, raising kids and cleaning the house at the end of the day, as a matter of fact, if a man did that he would probably get more recognition. Sad but true. I'm upset that we have to be weak and dainty to be attractive, I'm sad speaking your mind as a woman isn't attractive the way people respect and love men when they "exert power" I'm sorry I'm rambling, but I'm stuck in the middle of women's rights were I don't wear the pants in the relationship, nor do I get to stay home raise children and get everything paid for. Just working and growing to school and every paycheck is gone before I can hold it, and watching everyone around me get handed things left and right...Sometimes my bitterness is too much to bear.